Phases, Flip-Flops, and Finding Myself: How Personal Style Cycles Reveal Who You’re Meant to Be (and What to Sell Next)

 

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Phases, Flip-Flops, and Finding Myself:

What My Style Cycles Are Teaching Me About Alignment, Creativity, and Running a Business That Feels Like Me

Let me just start by saying: I am currently in my boho era.

The long skirts? Yes. The jangly layered jewelry? Absolutely. The urge to drift barefoot through a farmer’s market with a lavender lemonade in one hand and a paintbrush in the other? That's the mood, baby.

But I also own wedge heels. And I’ve been known to dabble in T-shirts, jogger-esque pants, and sneakers that would make my pre-office-life self clutch her pearls. And don’t get me started on the time I swore I was entering my “business baddie” phase—complete with slacks and ambition.

So what’s all this mean?

It means I go through phases. And I’m finally realizing that this is less of a quirk and more of a system. A rhythm. A natural, sacred, creative flow.

And sis, maybe you're in one too.

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What Even Is a Phase?

Let’s define this gently: a phase is a deeply felt, soul-led style or mood shift that comes over you like a new playlist on shuffle. It could last a week, a season, or until Mercury stops moonwalking through your birth chart.

For me, these phases touch everything—my clothes, my creativity, how I decorate my home office, and even which side of my brain I want to work with today.

And the beauty of recognizing your own phases? You start to see yourself more clearly—in your habits, in your values, and in your wardrobe hoarding tendencies (I’m not throwing away that fringe kimono, and you can’t make me).

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I once did the 333 Project—33 items, 3 months. And it worked because it honored my rhythm. Not in spite of it.

And yet, I can't bring myself to Marie Kondo the pieces from my past lives because I know that in 3.5 months, I’ll be crawling back to that burnt orange flowy tunic like it’s a long-lost ex who got their act together.

My closet isn’t chaotic—it’s a curated timeline of my self-discovery.

Boho Today, CEO Tomorrow

I work in a place where I can rock sneakers and tees, but even that’s a shift. I used to be a "heels to the grocery store" kind of girl. And now? Comfort reigns. If my clothes don’t feel like a hug and a vibe, I’m not interested.

That doesn’t mean the dress-up phase is gone. It just means it had its moment—and it might come back around. (Just like my obsession with beaded bracelets and oversized sunglasses. She’s peeking her head back in, y’all.)

Remote Work Made Me Rethink My WHOLE Life Setup

At some point, I realized: I don’t want to go into an office. Not now. Not next year. Possibly not ever again.

That realization started shifting everything—from how I thought about my job, to how I want my desk to look, to the literal size of the furniture in my room (spoiler: my current desk is giving “conference table energy” in a closet-sized room).

But since I’m moving soon (another phase—hello transition season!), I get to rebuild it all intentionally. And that’s exciting. I’m not just decorating a room. I’m styling my future self’s command center.

Phases vs. Shifts: There’s a Difference

Boho is a phase. Working from home? That’s a lifestyle shift.

These longer-term changes require deeper realignment: how I spend my time, what kind of job I say yes to, and whether I say yes at all.

I’m not just craving mood boards and herbal teas. I’m curating a new way of existing—and I’m filtering every decision through this updated identity.

Creativity, Please Come Back—I Miss You

When I’m buried in online courses, resume tweaks, and moving logistics, my creativity gets smothered like hot sauce on Sunday mac and cheese (which sounds good, but trust me—it’s not the vibe).

So today I woke up thinking, “You know what I need? A good ‘ole Bobalama Baby art session.”

Let me explain.

Years ago, I had a little side project where I made these adorable llama + boba tea character stickers. It was playful. Joyful. Whimsical. Not “on brand” for my usual personal development self—but exactly what I needed at the time.

And suddenly, that creative itch is back. I don’t need it to be a business. I just need it to be. And sometimes that’s enough.

Does It All Need a Schedule?

I thought: “Maybe I should schedule my phases. Structure my whims. Block out time for being a creative, spontaneous force of nature.”

Then I thought: Girl, why?

If I feel like designing a T-shirt today and journaling tomorrow, that’s not chaos. That’s sacred rhythm. That’s feminine flow. That’s how I do life. And I love that about me.

You don’t need a strict schedule to honor your phases. You just need self-awareness, curiosity, and a community that doesn’t look at you sideways when you pivot for the 47th time this quarter.

Final Thoughts (a.k.a. Gentle Wisdom Wrapped in a Cozy Throw Blanket)

  1. Your phases are divine data.
    They’re not mood swings. They’re soul clues.

  2. Not everyone gets to hear the whole song.
    Some phases are yours alone. Protect your joy from judgment.

  3. Surround yourself with folks who see your vision—even when you’re still sketching it.
    You deserve community that roots for you with their whole chest.

  4. You can build a life, a business, and a brand that grows with you.
    Your evolution is the business strategy.

And most importantly—you’re allowed to love the way you do things. Your phases. Your processes. Your weird little llama art. All of it.

Live Pleasurably,

 

Manifestos You’ll Love!


Aja Vancica

3/5 Manifesting Generator, Charcuterie Board Connoisseur, Home Enthusiast (a fancy term for an introverted homebody), Blogger, Certified Master Coach, and Ultimate Queen of Reinvention

https://morningslikethis.com
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